Parent Cue - February 17, 2016

Parent Cue

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Some people just get on your nerves more than others, don’t they? Whether they’re constantly late, always talking, totally irresponsible or just plain annoying, we all have someone in our lives who drives us crazy. And often—that person is in our family, or those that we spend the most time with. 

So what do you do when the person who frustrates you the most lives in your own house? Take all the same classes? Work with you everyday? How do you cope when everything they do makes you lose your patience with them?

Patience is something King Solomon talked about often in the book of Proverbs. And thankfully he doesn’t say, “just try harder” when it comes to those who get on your nerves. Instead, he gives us a clue into one surprising thing that can grow our patience in any situation. And if we’re willing to give it a try, we may just find it easier to go for the win with our families, friends and co-workers. 

A person’s wisdom yields patience; it is to one’s glory to overlook an offense (Proverbs 19:11 NIV).

Bottom Line: Where impatience makes you world smaller, patience makes it bigger.  

Think About This

Patience.  Now there is a word that can bring tension to any conversation. “Be patient while you wait.” “Be patient when you drive.” “Be patient with your brother.” But why is it so hard for us to be patient—especially when dealing with our family? There’s just something about our family that seems to take what little patience we have and pours it down the drain. Our interactions could be categorized more as impatient rather than patient.  However, King Solomon has some wise advice that can help us be more patient with those we love the most.

A person’s wisdom yields patience; it is to one’s glory to overlook an offense (Proverbs 19:11 NIV). 

In this Proverb, Solomon is reminding us that a person’s wisdom leads to patience. It takes wisdom to seek to understand a situation and see beyond the immediate circumstances. Looking beyond the current situation allows for a calmer attitude and ultimately to be a more patient person. Solomon concludes the Proverb by telling us it is to our benefit to overlook an offense. We can choose to not focus on the other person’s wrong-doing but to move past it.  

So what can we do today to become more patient with those we love? We can ask for wisdom, and we can watch what we say. We can choose to seek to understand the situation fully, and we can give that person the benefit of the doubt when they offend us. 

Ask This: 

  1. What is an area of your life where you struggle to have patience? 
  2. Why do you think that area is harder than others? 
  3. What is it about patience that is wise?
  4. What is one way we could begin to work on patience together? 
  5. What is one way I could help you identify when you're becoming impatient?
  6. What is one what YOU could help ME identify when I am becoming impatient? 
  7. Share a story in your life when patience was the hard, but correct, call.