Parent Cue: February 3, 2016

Parent Cue

We're in week 3 of our series, FOR THE WIN. 

We're Teaching This

Tonight's focus is going to be on dating. Now, we acknowledge that students are in very different places when it comes to this topic. So don't worry.. Jr. High is going to get a pretty different look at this than high school.

Both groups will be emphasizing Proverbs 4:23 which says "Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it". Here's how it'll break down. 

Nitro (6-8th Grade):

You might be asking yourself, “Why would you talk about dating with Junior High Students?” Well, when it comes to the majority of Junior High students, they either don't care because dating isn’t even on their radar, or they are starting to think about this way too much.

The Book of Proverbs urges us to “Guard our hearts.” Music, Television, and friends are communicating a message about dating, and we believe that when it comes to dating in Junior High, this is the OFF SEASON. With that, a winning athlete doesn't position themselves for the win once the season begins, a winning athlete gets their start by preparing themselves in the OFF SEASON. Everything gets its start from your heart, so the off season is the perfect season to learn practical ways to guard it.

One of the biggest things we're going to emphasize is that obedience to parents is the best way that students can guard their hearts in this time of life. So even if they want to date, if Mom and Dad say No (and we're kinda thinking you should): then dating is OFF LIMITS. 


Fusion (9-12th Grade):

What could be MORE relevant for High Schoolers than this? We know they're thinking about it a lot and we know that many of the are making big mistakes in this area (even now). Basically, we're going to outline 4 Biblical Parameters to dating that should narrow the playing field, and then focus on how (when you're staying with those parameters) the best way to honor God in dating is by guarding your heart. 

The 4 Parameters are

  1. "Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right." (Ephesians 6:1)
  2. "Flee the evil desires of youth and pursue righteousness, faith, love and peace, along with those who call on the Lord out of a pure heart." (2 Timothy 2:22)
  3. "Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength." (Mark 12:30)
  4. "Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common?" (2 Corinthians 6:14)

Dating is always risky, and sometimes it's devastating. We know that there is not "one size fits all" answer, but we'll be encouraging students that, in this phase of life, don't date unless you're going to do it the hard (Biblical) way. 

The Bottom Line: Everything gets its start in your heart. 

Ask This: 

  1. Dating is a pretty interesting topic. What did you expect to hear tonight on dating? 
  2. Did they say what you expected? 
  3. Where do you feel like you are on a "ready to date" spectrum? Why is that? 
  4. What are some steps you could take to intetionally guard your heart (and the hearts of others?) 
  5. Which Biblical parameter of dating do you struggle with most? (High School Only)
  6. What is your plan for making the most of this dating "off-season"? (Jr. High Only)