Parent Cue - March 2, 2016

Parent Cue

We're Teaching This

We don't want you to be nervous about this series - we're working hard to make sure we present relevant, helpful, challenging content that is age-appropriate. 

We're admitting to students that this isn't health class, and we aren't their parents. So our goal is NOT to educate them on what sex is but rather how to handle their sexuality in a way that honors God. You can count on the fact that we'll be addressing it differently in high school than Jr. High. 

Here's how we'll define sex, Biblically speaking:

  1. Sex is a gift
  2. Sex is a powerful gift
  3. Sex is a dangerous gift
  4. Sex is a gift with a purpose (procreation and pleasure)

In both groups, our bottom line will be that Purity paves the way to intimacy. Purity, we want students to know is not defined as "no sex" - purity is defined as "no lust". Even married people aren't off the hook in this area! All Christ-Followers have to be on guard against lust since that is the heart of the issue. Obviously, before marriage, all sexual expression includes lust, so it's not an option. 

In the end, God isn't calling us to "no fun" - He is showing us the only path to sexuality that is fulfilling, satisfying and honoring to Him. 

In Nitro, the emphasis will be on how we need to put up guardrails to prevent future problems in the area of our sexuality. 

In Fusion, we'll be acknowledging that sexual exploration is already happening - if not with the students themselves, then at least with their peers in school. Thus, we will be discussing in more detail the kinds of specific struggles students are facing (pornography, sexting, modesty, etc). We will never be unnecessarily graphic - but in order to communicate to where students truly are, there will definitely be times when tough subjects are covered. 

Don't worry - both talks will be recorded and available for parents to listen in. We want you to be able to trust us (and we want to back up what you're teaching at home as well!). 

Please don't hesitate to ask questions. 

Think About This:

We live in a sexualized culture. And even when parents are working hard to prevent sexual exposure, the stats aren't very encouraging. We're convinced that pro-active, on-going conversations that model humility and honesty are the best long-term solution. 

Here are some sobering statistics on our culture today (remember... this includes our students!): 

  • 9 out of 10 boys and 6 out of 10 girls are exposed to pornography online before the age of 18.
  • The first exposure to pornography among boys is 12 years old, on average.
  •  83% of boys and 57% of girls are exposed to group sex online.
  • 69% of boys and 55% of girls are exposed to same-sex intercourse online.
  • 32% of boys and 18% of girls are exposed to bestiality online.
  • 15% of boys and 9% of girls have seen child pornography online.
  • 71% of teens have done something to hide their online activity from their parents.
  • 28% of 16-17-year-olds have unintentionally been exposed to pornography online.
  • 20% of 16-year-olds and 30% of 17-year-olds have received a sext.
  • 39% of boys and 23% of girls have seen sexual bondage online.

Ask This: 

  • We're going to talk about sex... but this doesn't have to be awkward. What stood out to you from the talk tonight? 
  • Where do you see the effects of sexuality that doesn't honor God in your school? friends? 
  • Do you tend to think of sex as a bad thing or a good thing? 
  • What's your biggest temptation in this area? 
  • What questions do you have about sex or sexuality or lust? 
  • Have you heard things about sex or sexuality from other sources that don't match what you heard tonight? 
  • Let's pray together about our family choosing to honor God with our sexuality. 
  • Maybe you can share more of your story - be sensitive to their age, but it could be time to be vulnerable and show that you know how tough this area of life can be! 

Resources To Come

Tomorrow we'll be sending out a blog with our favorite books, filtering software, etc. on this topic. We want to be as helpful as we can!